Sunday, May 13, 2012

Happy Perspective Day

First World problems:




Third World problems:


Which one offends you more? 


46 comments:

  1. i could not agree more!!!!!! xoxo, erika

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    1. Sheesh. I happen to adore Jamie (the mom on Time.) But can we discuss mothers whose breasts have NO milk for a minute??

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    2. this is what i wrote about the Time cover a few days ago... http://www.theurthmama.com/2012/05/mommy-wars.html

      But maybe this post I wrote today about Mother's Day is more to the point: http://www.theurthmama.com/2012/05/mamas-day-heaven-and-earth.html

      I do practice attachment parenting- and each of my living kids have been breastfed for 2 years or longer...but PERSPECTIVE, people!

      I have also buried two of my daughters, and held them after they had died, and well...once you have done that, the whole formula feeding vs. breastfeeding thing just doesn't seem like a big issue at all.

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  3. The first one offends because it shows breastfeeding in a provocative way...not a loving, nurturing way.

    The second one saddens me. Truly saddens me.

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  4. Ouch....that picture hurts my heart.

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  5. Missy - this is one of the more powerful statements I have seen about this issue. Thank you.

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  7. I couldn't agree more! This world really needs to get it together!

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  8. While I don't necessarily agree with attachment parenting, one of the best parts of living in America is that we all have the ability to choose how to raise our children. The poor people in the second picture, due to circumstances they cannot control, don't even have the ability to raise that precious child. In the grand scheme of things, what's so stinkin' important about the cover of a magazine?

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  9. I dare say, I'm not "mom enough" to have to bury my child for ANY reason, much less because he starved to death.

    Tweeting this!

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  10. http://www.rageagainsttheminivan.com/2012/05/where-is-mommy-war-for-motherless-child.html

    I love this commentary on this very issue.

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    1. I was so going to leave you the same blog post. The internet really is a small little world, huh?

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  11. Thank you, Missy! Puts it all in perspective once again!

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  12. That picture is heart-wrenching. I loved the post at Rage Against the Minivan on the same topic.

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  13. OMG. I did not expect to see that. You are so right.

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  14. Thank you. Thank you! THANK YOU!!!

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  15. I thought exactly the same as another commenter. The first offends me; the second saddens me.

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  16. I don't really understand what you are saying in this blog post.

    I don't like the Times magazine cover because it is provocative.

    However, breastfeeding past infancy is the single biggest thing that can be done to prevent the bottom picture, and not just in third world countries.

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    1. Here is what I am saying:

      Jamie chooses to breastfeed her children for years. It's front page news. The internet is exploding with the debate and everyone in this country seems to have a very strong opinion about whether a woman who is a perfect stranger to them should breastfeed her toddler and whether she should dare to wear skinny jeans while she does it.

      Getting to choose when, if, and/or how long we nurse our children - not to mention how fashionably we do so - is an extremely first world 'problem' and I am flabbergasted at the attention that this magazine cover has raised.

      The woman in the photo below does not get the luxury of making these choices, because her breasts do not have any milk whatsoever. An emaciated mother is burying her emaciated baby because there is a famine in the Horn of Africa that is killing mothers and babies every single day.

      And I truly wish that our nation, or at the very least our churches, would get as riled up and offended over THAT stranger's problems.

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    2. Thank you! A picture truly is worth a thousand words.

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    3. Ah- I guess I see the two issues as interconnected. But yes, I wish we all would pay attention to real need.

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  17. Missy, I know we don't know each other, but I do love you! And this is one of the reasons why. Thank you.

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  18. Yes...that is perspective...thank you so much for posting this...

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  19. Wholey & completely agree. LOVE you for posting this!

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  20. Well put! Good job, Missy!

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  21. This stopped me in my tracks this morning. THANK YOU! I had a similar post around Christmas with "Define Necessity" and more recently with the catch phrase, "FML." Although my blog is usually lighthearted, these pictures NEED to be circulated, we NEED to realize how fortunate we are here in the U.S. and accept the responsibility to DO SOMETHING.

    I have shared this with my blog readers... hope you get some new visitors from it. Thank you, again!

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  22. This was like a punch to the solar plexus.

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  23. Wow...

    Just wow.

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  24. WOW, that took my breath away. There is a weight on my chest.

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  25. I am devastated by the second image, and couldn't care less about the sensationlist photo on the cover of Time. (I also practiced attachment parenting- I just don't think how one mother parents is relevant to others, and had no interest in the Time picture / article personally.)
    It is too easy for us to focus a magnifying glass of scrutiny on mothering, when there are so many bigger issues in the world.

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  26. As someone who has worked in two-thirds world nations with starving children like the one in the second picture, may I challenge each of us to go beyond "feeling guilty" or "feeling sad" or "feeling outraged" or "feeling offended" and instead feel responsible (i.e., take action on behalf of those who are starving)?

    Simply being grateful that we don't have to deal with such problems is not enough. The strongest feelings in the world don't feed starving children and their mothers. Children in Africa and India and Bolivia are fed the same way our children are: with a plate of food in front of them. If we are not in a season to go, then embrace our role in the kingdom as givers and enablers for those who are able to do so.

    Thank you for posting this. My prayer is that we will be moved beyond the blogosphere to actually touch, in some small way, those who are dying, those for whom Heaven weeps.

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  27. I hope that boy doesn't have messed up head due to her so called "parenting" Have some respect for yourself and you children. This child will have a far greater chance of needing therapy because his relationships with women will be screwed up.

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    1. See above where I said nasty commenters are always anonymous? You proved my point.

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  28. I hate that this magazine cover was ever published. To me, it's like the commercials with starving, hurt animals, asking you to send money to a cause. What about the starving, dying PEOPLE on every continent? Where is the help for them? It hink our world is screwed up. Thanks for the post.

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  29. I couldn't agree more with your "perspective", Missy. Right on! And thank you!!

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  30. Missy I thought you would enjoy this blog post that I think really backs up your point:)

    http://www.rageagainsttheminivan.com/2012/05/where-is-mommy-war-for-motherless-child.html

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