Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Some of the 1,000,000 things I've learned about blogging

Sometime in the wee hours of yesterday, this blog crossed the 1,000,000 mark in terms of hits.

Which is just bizarre.

What started out as a little blog about Missy's rambling and her sometimes odd, sometimes hilarious children grew into what I've had many tell me is a ministry.

Which is really bizarre.
And really daunting. 

Since 2007, one million hits ago, I've learned a lot about blogging and I am still learning.

I've learned that the posts that I thought were the best often fall flat. The posts that I thought were the lamest often get "I've got tears from laughing" comments. Which means I've learned that what makes a good blog post usually has no discernible rationale.

But I've learned that confessing my weaknesses as a mother and a Christ follower with a never ending need for grace always makes a good blog post.

I've learned that I am not afraid to talk about what I think is wrong, especially abortion, but I'm much better at dishing it than taking it.

I've learned that surprisingly, I almost never get un-subscribers after a provocative post, but sometimes several following a post I consider benign.

I've learned that sometimes my passion, especially regarding those who misuse Scripture, can come across sounding unloving. 

I've learned that often after I blog something, it leaves my mind forever, and I can read old posts like they were written by someone else.

I've learned that most of my closest friends don't read my blog but many people I never would guess, do.

I've learned not to be freaked out when complete strangers know a whole lot of my business.

I've learned that some of those complete strangers will mail us money when I announce we are adopting a child.

I've learned that complete strangers will send me emails, spilling their hearts, asking me to join in their sufferings with prayer and advice. 

I've learned that people will copy complete blog posts, post it on their own blogs, and not give me credit.

I've learned that a 'Christian' writer will take my copywritten material and use it for a famous Christian band's Christmas concert, and when I request compensation, she will threaten to sue me.

I've learned that a few men are addicted to mom blogs.

I've learned that people who leave ugly comments are cowards, because they do it anonymously.

I've learned not to let one ugly comment negate a hundred encouraging ones.

I've learned that some people who are not strangers will take things I've written and use them against me.

I've learned that strangers will take things I've written and fly me across the country to speak at their church events. 

I've learned that some people think adoption is wrong.

I've learned that most people think adoption is beautiful.

I've learned that some of my best friends are invisible to me.

I've learned that when they become visible, the friendship only deepens. But sometimes they have accents that I never imagined they'd have.

I've learned that some bloggers who are rather serious online are hilarious in real life.

I've learned that the most successful bloggers are often shy introverts who are completely freaked out by their blog success.

I've learned that words have power, great power, and I've learned to be reverent and respectful of that power.

I've learned that the Internet has power, great power, and I've learned to be reverent and respectful of that power.

I've learned that James 3:1 can keep me up at night with worry. 

I've learned to have great respect for those who speak HTML.

I've learned that blog statistics can become an idol. 

I've learned that comparing myself to other bloggers is not only a waste of time, but a sin.

I've learned that facebook can spread a blog post like a virus.

I've learned there are some posts I may never be able to write because even though it might help others, it would hurt my family.

I've learned that my family is always more important than blogging.

I've learned that it's okay if I don't blog for a day, or even a week. I've learned y'all always come back.

Thank you, my friends. You have been great teachers.

Here's, God willing, to a million more.


  1. What a great post! Well done. :)

  2. Great post! I'm currently just over 10,000 page views 0 i hope to see 1 million someday! Congrats!

  3. AWESOME post...I love your perspective on your friends who read vs. don't and how you've learned to not let the haters impact you, too!

    Keep following your heart - you're touching lives!

  4. Love your blog, missy! Learning from you as I start into the blogging world!

  5. I have to say "ditto" Michele. I just completed my first blog post as we chronicle our journey of hosting two orphans from Latvia this summer. (ourmissionofloveandhope.blogspot.com) Missy, I have learned much from you and look forward to learning more. Thanks so much for letting God use you to reach so many.

  6. I just subscribed to your blog and have been enjoying it. However, when I am spending too much time on blogs I'll unsubscribe to them all. So not all "unsubscriptions" are because of a post. Some are readers who sometimes get to sucked into bloggy land!

    1. I do the same thing. But when I get 3-4 on one day, I'm like, what? Does my breath stink??

  7. This post is a great example of why I love your blog. It's honest, funny, and insightful all at the same time!

    On a different note, it's funny to me how many of these lessons you shared are the same ones I have learned. Like reading my old posts as if they are completely new and written by someone else, or closest friends not reading my blog while people I would never expect to turn out to be dedicated readers.

    The contrast between strangers blessing you by reading your blog and non-strangers using your words to hurt you hits too painfully close to home. And I am ever so sorry your words were stolen--and by such a shocking and hurtful source. {hug} Keep doing what you're doing, being who you are.

    1. Thanks Shonya.

      I have to constantly remind myself "the word of the cross is folly to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God."

  8. You've always been one of my favorite bloggers! I know that when I will come here my heart will be moved with joy or with tears but it will always be moved. Keep it up!

  9. Yeah, you are totally my favorite blogger ever. I don't always comment, but it makes my day when I see you have something new posted! (& I'm guaranteed to laugh or cry or be challenged!) Thank you, thank you, my dear!

  10. Woot woot. A mil. That's astounding. Makes you wish you had $1 per hit, huh? Then Bethie's funds would be there. Plus about 20 or so more Bethies.

    Also, it took me a good 30-45 seconds to realize that HTML was not an acronym for something other than HTML (which I'm sure is an acronym for something, but I'm not smart enough to know what that is.)

    Big hugs to you friend. I REALLY hope one day we can meet IRL. Remind me to wear a post-pregnancy pad b/c I'm quite sure I'll pee muh pants from the laughter.

    1. wow, a million dollars.


      let's have a moment of silence....

  11. that is a great list! my most popular post on my blog i was afraid to hit "post" on for fear of how it would be received... and other posts i worked really hard on didn't seem to connect with people as much as i thought they would.

    i have had the chance to meet 2 different friends i made over blogging and they have been such blessings to my life.

    i am glad to have been introduced to your blog by a good friend and hope you keep writing for a long time - i connect to so much you have to say!

    my recent post: raising lovers of Jesus in the midst of the chaos

  12. "found" your blog a year or two ago via a facebook friend - and I'm so glad I did. You are one of the bloggers I'd love to grab a cup of coffee or a soda with.

  13. Now you really are one in a million! Here's hoping for a million more -- and I can't wait for the post that features the first picture of your daughter.

  14. Awesome post. So true. Thank you!

  15. Love your honesty, your blog and you!

  16. Such a wonderful reflection, Missy! Love you, friend.

  17. Missy, I may come and go reading my blogs, but one thing will forever remain true.... I always either laugh or cry when I read your post. I just love them.

  18. Wow--you have had a full range of blogging experiences.

    I'm so glad to have found your blog. You're really a force for good in the world. (And you're a pleasure to read!)

  19. I love this post and can totally relate to complete strangers knowing my business. I also often feel redundant when I start to tell friend a story and they reply, 'I know; I read it on your blog". Congrats on the 1,000,000 views! Your writing voice is always encouraging and blesses my life:-) I'm so glad that I stumbled upon your blog!

  20. I cannot tell you how thankful I am for this. I am not even a year into owning my own business and blog/website. This is great perspective and encourages me more than you know. I am so grateful a friend passed you my way and will now be a follower!

  21. Awesome! Way to go! And thanks for all of the encouragement, laughs and "toe stepping" along the way. You rock! :)

  22. Amen and Amen.

    Congrats on 1 million! I took my hit counter off my blog about 2 years ago, because I couldn't deal with the pressure to keep looking at it. So, we will never be able to celebrate this milestone with me.

    Of all you said, this one hit me the most:

    "I've learned there are some posts I may never be able to write because even though it might help others, it would hurt my family."

    I have so many posts in my head that fit this description...

    And the one about family being more important than blogging--it was our long phone conversation about that very thing that propelled me to take my extended blog break, of which I am still on.

    You encourage me, inspire me and challenge me as a mom and a writer. And you make me laugh harder than just about any blogger out there.

    I am thankful to be counted as one of the strangers-turned-real-life-friends.

    I LOVE YOU!!!!

  23. I LOVE reading your blog! I'm always so excited when a new one posts.

    You have such a gift and seem like a genuine, "would love to hang out with her" kind of girl.

    Keep writing, we'll keep reading!

    P.S. Do some people REALLY think adoption is WRONG? Still trying to wrap my head around that.

    1. Oh, honey. Yes. They do. In all circumstances.

      They are minorities, they are wackos, but they spend a whole lot of time on the internet.

  24. Congrats on the millionth hit! :) I love your blog.

  25. Congrats! I've been reading your blog since my son was born, 19 months ago, and started blogging myself then too. I have the same experience- some of my closest friends don't read my blog, but I have faithful followers I've never met, which I've always thought strange. Keep writing!

  26. Love your blog!

    Is there a typo in the eighth paragraph? It talks about "something I think is right, like abortion..." Did you mean ADOPTION?

    Sorry, I'm a proofreader and can't get away from it!

  27. amen! thank you, dear sister, for sharing the journey with me. God uses you to teach and encourage me and many, and don't ever let the enemy tell you any different. Let us not grow weary in doing good for in due time we will reap!!!

  28. Hurray for God's blessing on your writing and your blog. you are an inspiration, and your words speak volumes every time I visit. Thank you!

  29. Congratulations! That's an excellent list. My blog is just over a year and I've learned some of those lessons, so it was nice to feel the camaraderie. I've been reading since the fall and I've really, really appreciated your honesty. I'll be one of the 1,000,000 more!

  30. Great post! I'm learning most of these same things!

  31. Oh my glory, y'all's comments have been so sweet!!! THANK YOU!!! (sniff) sweet invisible friends!!!

  32. Shout out from Romania! I'm betting your readers circle the globe. Actually, a friend here just mentioned the other day about her snarky 6 year old son and I sent her to your post on that. She was so encouraged. So thanks for writing from your heart. It's nice to know there are people out there who have similar thinking on life, the gospel, parenting, and lots of other stuff.

  33. Thankful for you and your writings for sure! I think blogs are to this generation what soap operas were to my mom's generation. I'm so glad you bring truth and Jesus into the internet where many others bring drama and self-glorification. Thank you for making us laugh, being authentic, and continually lifting up Jesus' name!

  34. First time visit today. I came from Gaby's blog at Life in a Glass House. I love your insight about blogging...I am much newer, it'll be awhile before I hit 1,000,000 hits. So I appreciate the perspective.

    I love your tag line: relying greatly on coffee, Grandmas, and God's abundant grace!! Amen, sister. Me, too!!

  35. Congrats Missy! I have been reading your blog ever since a friend of mine posted your "I Don't Want My Children to be Happy" on FB a couple years ago (was it really that long ago???), and I've loved your blog ever since! And, at the time I didn't know anyone else who had kids right away and closer together than mine (17mo.) even though I knew the people were out there somewhere! Anyways, thanks for your blog, it always brightens my day to read it. You're like my best friend who doesn't even know I exist =P

  36. So, I have about 20% of the views on my blog that you've had on yours... If that means I'm 20% of your coolness, then I'm pretty happy with that!

  37. I'm so blessed to have "found" your blog in another blogger's blogroll. You bless me, inspire me, cause me to laugh out loud and commiserate - all without knowing you (although you have a GREAT name!). I agree with all the folks who've said they wish they could grab a cup of coffee (although I'd prefer a nice bold cab, too!) with you. I really look forward to each new post and wonder how close it will hit home or mirror my own circumstances. Thank you for sharing your gift with us!

    Keep it up and can't wait to see what your new "place" looks like!

  38. This blog is my favorite. Lots of what you write makes me think hard, and laugh, and cry... etc. I always look forward to stopping by to read what's on your mind!



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