Monday, August 27, 2012

Cause I'm not that mom

 

I wish I were one of those moms who post on Facebook "I'm so sad for the summer to end, I just want to spend more time making daisy chains and playing Legos with my darling kiddos!!"

I'm just not that mom. 

It's been a hard summer. It's been a stressful summer. It's been a whiny summer.

Lately it's been an arguing summer. And a "I thought obeying Mom was just an option, like maybe if I got bored or something" summer.

My three and a half extroverted kids (Maggie is on the fence) have been cooped up in the Houston heat/Austin drought just long enough for them to go buggy.

And buggy kids + exhausted mom = less than idyllic scenarios of familial bliss.

Last night we prayed for the first day of school and Shepherd said, "Please help Mom with her an-gust." Yes, Lord. Help me with my angust.  My angust hit a peak yesterday. My angust exploded yesterday.



Which is why today,
after my iPhone chirped at me in the dark (new school starts 45 minutes earlier than the last school - hold me),

after I turned the wrong way getting to our new school,
then fought a literal traffic jam involving 8 SUVs and one school bus and 18 set out trash cans trying to find a parking spot,
when we finally made it to the classrooms,

there were no tears when I dropped off my baby for his first day of kindergarten.


Nor when I left my other baby in first grade.


nor my other baby in second grade


nor my other baby in third grade.


The dad who saw me hold my hands up in the air, shout FREEDOM!! and resist doing cartwheels might have judged me.

Some of you might judge me.

But some of you won an imaginary Olympic gold medal too.

Wanna meet up for lunch??

42 comments:

  1. I'm still amazed that your kids are one year apart in school. My oldest will start sixth grade next week, and I have three more years until my baby will start kindergarten.

    I'm sure I will be more melancholy once they are all in school, but right now? All that time to myself sounds like bliss. Enjoy!

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  2. Let's do lunch! Congratulations! We started last week and have our first hurricane day today. Not cool. I am counting the days til my second starts VPK and I get three hours to myself each week.

    Does this mean that we can count on a more frequent blogging schedule??? Please!?!?!

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  3. I must say, I was sad/am sad about my little Kindergarten girl. It's been a week and half and I still miss her during the day.
    My boys. Well, let's just say, I'm happy they're happy at school and have never been more thankful we don't homeschool.
    We've had a record heat wave here too and that's just to much testosterone to be cooped up all summer long!

    Enjoy your silence!

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    1. I will not miss the CLICK CLICK CLICK of Nerf guns all. day. long.

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  4. Love this post! My younger child has been in school for a week and a half already. She's going to a new school that's on a slightly different calendar than the rest of the schools around here. So... Got that one over with tear-free, except for one afternoon at pick-up when I thought I might cry. (I know, crazy... But she was on the playground just sitting by herself. I have had to remind myself that she's just exhausted and needs a little alone time at the end of the day.) Older child is back at the same school, with the same teacher (love her!). I didn't do a fist pump when I dropped him off, but I have to say that it's nice to have a regular routine again. Not sure what to do with myself (because my list is so long and I don't know where to begin...), but I think I'll figure something out.

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  5. ah yes. you are still an inspiration even with the cartwheels and all the an-gust :)

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    1. aw thanks. I've had a long week of bad-mother-blues. It's been such a stressful summer, it just came to a head.

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  6. I have to admit that I loved this post! I'm with you! I am not sad and I sent my last teenager off to his Sophomore year! No tears from me or him! I did get him to take the annual picture with his sign & even though he doesn't like it he will let me do it because (1) It makes me happy, (2) If I am not happy no one will be and this may be the most important(3)I control the checkbook and I am buying him a car in 21 so he can drive himself forever!!!!!!! LOL

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  7. Good for you!! I love that picture of their backpacks and lunchboxes all lined up -- you've had them packed and ready for a week, right? Hahahaha!! Have a great first day :)

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    1. I wish I were that organized. That was about midnight last night.

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  8. Let's meet for lunch! I'm on your team!

    My Isabella and your Ike are one in the same. Not only am I thrilled for me (the break makes me a better mom to her), but I'm also thrilled for her. Structure and stimulation outside of our homes will be so great for them.

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  9. I accidentally left my 2 1/2 year old in his kindergartner sister's classroom. Got all the way down the hall until I realized that I was still supposed to have one of my three kids lol

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  10. One of mine hasn't gone back yet and hubs took the week off so I'm not in "let's do lunch" mode yet, but I AM squarely in your camp. I know exactly two moms who were sad their kids had to go back to school, but the rest were very ready for structure again. You are not alone, and I'm not judging you one little bit. xo

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  11. Thank you. I always feel bad that I'm just not that mom. Guilt hits big time when August rolls around and I look forward to school starting. Thank you, for helping all us moms who anticipate school starting. 9 days and counting here.

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  12. GIRL, I was not sad this year, either. I can say I was honestly, TRULY happy for them because they are offered so much more away from me. And if that puts me in the Bad Mom Camp, well, sign me up. I'm bringing s'mores.

    (PS - look at all that blondie blondness!)

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    1. Almost as amazed that I had a baby a year is that 3/4 of them are blond.

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  13. Missy, sooo funny! I don't judge you! Being a mom is hard to begin with...add in heat and drought...yeah! Enjoy your quiet? day!!!

    Christie
    http://satisfactionthroughchrist.blogspot.com

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  14. Holy. Cow. I lose my mind with my ONE child. I simply can't imagine the discipline and love you must have to hold onto your sanity through the long summer months. (Looong. Summer. Months.) You do your cartwheels, I say. You made it!

    (If you hadn't guessed, I'm not that mom either.)

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  15. I am "that mom". But I will admit I thought your post was great !

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  16. i am soooo not judging you. we have had a long summer discovering that red dye does not belong in my younger sons diet. only a couple of months in but it has been stressful. have a GREAT first day.

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    1. good for you! I betcha there's lots of other stuff that doesn't belong in his diet either. :/

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  17. This was my first year to not be sad! And I still have two at home, but I was Sooo glad to drop that 2nd and 1st grader off that first day and have an entire day with JUST two kids! Then, I felt guilty for not being sad! My husband laughed at me and I got over the guilt. I am Loving this new schedule where I don't have all four in the house.

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  18. Hope you had a great day today, Mis! I am wishing we had the budget for pre-school so I could have a break, too! It's funny...When I was teaching, the summers went WAY too fast. Now that I'm on the other side, I have a feeling they will c-r-a-w-l!
    Praying y'all have a great afternoon hearing the first day stories!

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  19. Thanks for your post!!!! My oldest started kindergarten today, and everyone keeps asking me if I'm upset. I'm not...it's been a rough summer of moving to a new state, my husband finishing his dissertation, starting a new job, dealing with my health problems while not having health insurance, kids having enough quality time with each other and constantly fighting and being banned to separate rooms since I just can't physically separate them...you get it. Nope, I wasn't sad to see D off to school - I was excited for some quiet and only one child to keep entertained while I stare at the boxes I can't unpack. And I have felt pretty guilty for counting the days until today! Glad I'm not alone! - Christin

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    1. Ooh....and preschool starts in two weeks! :-)

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  20. I'll be that mom tomorrow- turning cartwheels! This is the FIRST YEAR I have both boys in school full time! FREEDOM!

    (Oh yeah...and a surprise pregnancy due in October....well, I made it to the land of milk and honey for 8 weeks....that counts, right?!?!?) Sigh.

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    1. Yea for you! And congrats - I know a thing or two about unexpected blessings. :)

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  21. Wow - how can all FOUR of them be in school?! Time is marching on!

    I'm always a bit on the fence about school starting. I'm generally okay with it starting but only for about a month, then I'm ready to be done again! LOL And this year is my baby's senior year, so today was the last first day of school. That is kinda sobering!

    We'll have to do lunch soon!

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  22. 1) Loving my lunch and coffee flexibilities
    2) Your kids are so close together at least you get a few years of having just ONE school schedule, paperwork, etc to handle
    3) I was so very excited for school to start, but got a big 'ol lump in my throat when I saw the half-day kindergarten bus roll by...as I ate my quiet lunch alone:( Not that a quiet lunch is bad at all, but thinking I'll never have a "half day-er" at home with me ever again....
    4) Looking at number 3, not sure what kind of mom I am?

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  23. Your kids are SO CUTE. It's crazy that their birthdays all lined up so that they're in stairstep grades too. Enjoy having them all in school! You have earned that sweet freedom!

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  24. Hallelujah! I'm on my third week of freedom. Wahoo!

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  25. I am not so lucky to be in your shoes yet, but I can't wait for freedom! :) I am not that mom either! HA!

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  26. I agree with an above comment. You've earned that freedom! Enjoy! (I'll be doing the same shout in three years. Just saying.)

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  27. I have hopes that having my oldest in school will create a little more peace between he and the 2 1/2 year old... today was the first day and so far no luck. We'll see!

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  28. I call it the Mommy first day of school dance... and I do it as soon as the bus is out of sight and I am back inside my house... Don't get me wrong I love my kids and they are awesome kids, but summer is just way way way way too long.. a lot of the families around us send their kids off to various camps one right after another all summer long, but first we can't afford that, and second having stressed out kids and a stressed out mommie, might just make the house explode... I work from home (medical transcription) and it is very difficult when they seem to be playing tag team outside of my office to come in and ask me silly questions.... so nope, I am not ashamed to say that I am the mom that does the Happy Snoopy Dance on the first day of school.. good for you!!!!

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  29. i cyber school, so with me it's "waah! i have to start teaching school again" i'm with three kids every day, but playing in the summer is more fun that grammar and multiplying. i read blogs on recess :)

    p.s. being utterly nosy, i saw "Ingram" on a lunch box. are those the AR Ingrams? from Morsbach Mountain.

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  30. Okay, so I am slowly catching up on your blog (YAY! YOU GOT YOUR BETHIE REFERRAL!) and can I just say,
    THANK YOU!
    I have three children. Which isn't the same as four. But let me tell you, when I took my oldest to her first day of kindergarten this August, I was not.one.bit.sad. I thought there was surely something wrong with me. And now, I know I am not alone.
    So gracias.
    And in two years, when my twins enter the big K, maybe we can meet for lunch. If we are in the same state.
    It could happen.

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