Tuesday, November 6, 2012

Referral Games Part 4

After I told Lindsay that yes, oh yes, we wanted this little girl, we had to coordinate a conference call with Golfing Walker so that she could go over the referral with us and SEND US THE PICTURES. 

Remember when I told you about how every adoptive family dreams of The Call? And how in the dream, I was waiting demurely at home looking all cute next to my cute husband? Remember how we'd glow and pirouette and the birds would come lay wreathes of roses on our heads and stuff like that?

The reality was JUST LIKE THAT! See? 

As I jete' about the yard in a black muumuu, my hands gracefully poised in frustrated angst. 

Okay maybe my little 'housedress' is not technically a muumuu because it isn't covered with flowers but it's so tacky and shapeless that I'm positive Mrs. Roper would fight me for it. 

It was definitely not what Wardrobe had chosen for the fantasy photo shoot.

And the magical photographer elves who would appear to capture the moment had gotten other jobs with faster agencies a couple of years ago, the traitors. Which meant that I had to go next door to my new neighbor Kim and ask if she would mind coming over and taking a picture of our family (sans GOLFING WALKER) seeing Bethie for the first time. But her camera battery wasn't charged. 

So the photo shoot equipment for one of the most wonderful moment's of our lives? Her 12 year old daughter's iPod. 

In that photo above Walker is explaining that his phone is dead and I need to give Lindsay Dave's number. I rounded up the kids from the neighborhood diaspora as the paparazzi fired away.

Children gathered and sweaty, we parked in front of the computer

and I sat down, with my skirt hiked up so high, that I had to retouch it in Picasa to keep this blog G rated.

Because that's truly what most people's referral viewing photos are lacking - sex appeal. 
A little leg never hurt a good adoption story, did it??

We got Walker on the line in Cally

and then I got disconnected

and reconnected.

And then, before my eyes, appeared the precious face of my daughter whom I've dreamed of, longed for, pined for and prayed for for three long years.

And she's beautiful. 

And together the six of us laughed and ooooooed and ahhhhed and giggled and cried and knew that this little girls was ours. 

So what now?

We are waiting on a court date. We were submitted to court on October 19 but there is a new form that the government is requiring, so we are 'on hold'. However, I was informed that the missing paper was submitted on Friday, so I am waiting for the phone to ring.

People have been given as little as A WEEK to get to court, so we could literally be in Ethiopia NEXT WEEK. I'm hoping not, that would just about give me a nervous breakdown. The week after that is Thanksgiving and we will be at Galveston in a beach house with my mom like we always are, and I'd hate for the kids to miss that.  So as much as I want to go, the best timing for our family is after Thanksgiving.

There are two court dates. We only have to attend the second one. At the first one, her family will appear in court to relinquish rights. In this case, the relative representing her is a relative of her mom's, because her mother died in childbirth. Our court date will be assigned some days after that.

Assuming all goes well and we pass court, we will wait for an Embassy date to be assigned to us. This is when the American Embassy in Addis Ababa issues her a new birth certificate and a visa so that she can travel. It is taking about six weeks from court for us to be invited to request a date. We get to choose this date, which is great. So I *think* we should travel to bring her home in January or early February.

Thank you SO much for all your prayers over the past three years! I can't even begin to say thank you. You have sustained me and encouraged me more than you will ever know! In so many ways, this is your baby too!

I have so much more to tell you about how God has already showed us that this IS Bethie!

Until then, do you have any questions for me?


  1. um, amendment ---- isn't there a court date to add???? yeah freakin yeah!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

  2. So exciting after your long wait to be this close!

  3. As a Creative Memories consultant (i.e. photo organization coach, scrapbooking, digital albums, etc.), I love love love that you knew how important it was to have someone get pictures of all of this happening. Your little girl will especially love seeing all of your smiling faces when you first saw hers. Priceless! Who cares if they aren't perfect... they absolutely captured that moment! :) Louanne

  4. that close-up of you looking at her picture made me cry. so beautiful! i am so happy for you and can't wait to see you through the rest of this journey. xoxo, erika

  5. SSSWWWEEEEEEETTTTTT! So happy for you!

  6. The family shot of you guys all looking at the pictures is beautiful ^_^

  7. I will be following your story through your blog and praying for you all. It is wonderful how God is using you to fill what was lost to this little girl when her mother died. Have you heard of The White Ribbon Alliance for Safe Motherhood? I wonder if that might be useful to you as children grow up and start asking questions? Here's a link http://www.whiteribbonalliance.org/

    God bless x

  8. Enjoying seeing the step by step referral games unfold! Can't wait to hear about how God confirmed for you that this is your Bethie. Thank you - as always - for sharing your powerful story, with a side of humor:-) Congrats!

  9. I'm so happy for you! Thank you so much for sharing this, what an incredible family Bethie will have :-)

  10. can barely type for all the tears - so happy for you and your family - this sweet, sweet girl doesn't know what she's in for - what a loving, happy, crazy, sweet life awaits her - thanks for letting us into your referral games - jen p.s. maybe a little leg would speed up the process!?!?

  11. You know how happy this makes me! I hope I get to meet Bethie someday!

  12. This is SO wonderful! I am praising God for all of this right now...and I love how you documented it all. Seeing the joy on your face made me cry! I am so very happy for your family! Bethie is just as blessed to get you as you are to get her. Praying for no more red tape and smooth sailing on the process now. Congratulations!!!

  13. I'm praising the Lord with you! I love that you took pictures and shared them (and the story!) with us along with classic Missy humor. :)

    I'm in the beginning stages of the fostering process. I'm single and moved back to Plano to be near my parents for family support. I'm finishing up the paperwork and then will be on the list for the home study inspections and fire marshal inspections and...you get the point. I'd love to know of anyone else out there in my area that's fostering. Since I've moved here recently, I don't have a network built up yet. Know anyone in the north Dallas area that is fostering?

    1. Alyssa do you have a church? I'm sure there are churches with fostering communities - let me ask my peeps!

    2. Alyssa write on my facebook wall so I can let you know what I find out. I know Irving Bible Church is awesome but I don't know how far that is from Plano.

    3. I just sent you a FB friend request. :)
      I've been visiting around...and think I'll go to The Village, but still praying through a place to serve and call home. I have visited IBC. I've also heard fabulous things about their foster/adoption ministry...but (sadly) the people my age weren't very welcoming. The 60 something ladies were great, though! :)

  14. See? Even though I've already seen that picture of you smiling at her face, I still cried. It's just beautiful. In all its gritty glory.

  15. I am enjoying hearing all of the details of your story! Our friends that got a referral the same time as you are in court in Ethiopia today! They had 8 days notice!! With 4 kids 8 and under to make last minute arrangements for they were amazingly calm and collected!



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