Thursday, February 28, 2013

The prayers of righteous women availeth much

Just want to say, thank you SO much for praying!

Today was such a good day. When we woke up, Walker let me stay in bed and took her out with him while the other kids got ready for school. She wasn't thrilled about it, but she survived. And a little bit later, she rewarded him with a giggle and a smile when he was silly with her doll! And she is not flinching when he hugs her - major steps forward!

When you bring home an adopted child the experts say to "cocoon" - to limit visitors to the house besides family (and meal-dropper-offers, oh how I love thee) and try not to leave. We've been doing that. I literally have not changed out of my pj's, unless you count yoga pants, since we got home. And I think that was contributing in part to the insanity. I'm an extrovert, and while it has been nice to be "lazy" at home, in reality I get depressed when I don't get out. Maybe Bethie is the same way.

I am blessed with so many friends who have adopted, at church or online. One who has had great advice named Jessica told me the other day, "You've GOT to get out of the house or you will go insane. Just go to Target or SOMETHING." I took her advice.

Today I got us both up and dressed - I even put on makeup, y'all - and we went on our first outing to one of my favorite places on Earth - Costco.

Bethie had to get fabulous in order to go.



Do you like her fierce supermodel pout?

Because she is MY GIRL, Bethie LOVED Costco. I had her in the Ergo but she wiggled out before we were in the store for five minutes. Priss power walked up and down every aisle with a look of pure glee on her face, and I am not exaggerating that every single person stopped and smiled at her. She was so adorable!

Once we came back we took a good nap and then was in a great mood for the rest of the day. No hitting today, except once at Ike, who totally deserved it (they are already fighting like pro brothers and sisters.)

If you have a toddler you know exactly where I was sitting when I took this picture.


I'm constantly stunned at your sweet comments, prayers, and love. Seriously stunned. I am so blessed to have not only friends but so many 'strangers' storming the gates of Heaven for us. Thank you is such a small word, but from the bottom of my heart, thank you.

Ameseginalehu
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27 comments:

  1. Ooh I get to be the first to comment! This is because my son with autism vomited all over his bed an hour ago because at 13 he still doesn't know the warning signals and it's the kind of thing that leaves me wakeful and now it's 6am and we'll all be getting up soon anyway... where was I? Oh yes, how cute is she?! Love the jumper dress! What is it with little girls and dresses? So glad she is smiling and so glad we have such an abundantly generous heavenly father who listens to our prayers :-D
    Sandy

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  2. Love, love, love following your story! You are doing awesome! Oh and she unbelievably beautiful. :)

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  3. Oh yay! Yay God for days that provide the encouragement and 'oomph' necessary to make starting over another day and knowing it too will hold challenges is actually worth getting up and fighting for.

    Those are HUGE things you accomplished today! It wasn't JUST going to Costco - it was a successful outing, it was being out of house-clothes, it was make-up and accessories, it was a princess that enjoyed being decked out for her 'adventure,' and then who brightened the day of every other Costco shopper you encountered (and let me tell you, when I was reliant on carrots, spinach, and juice from there to stay alive - I got to 'study' the Costco shoppers (at least out west! - it tends to be a business like/brusque place, not one prone to "ooh" over a cute kid!) - so God even used Bethie and the unique way He's made and wired her, to touch hearts!

    And then, a good nap (and what sounds like great behaviour and great time with the rest of the kids - more and more grace. Praise God!

    Prayers still!

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  4. I wanted to comment before, on your entry where you talked about needing to be the best right now, and what an inspiration your prayerful response to that feeling was. You really are a tremendous inspiration; I find myself thinking about you so often, and talking to my family about your family and your thoughts and prayers, and your generosity in sharing this amazing journey.

    And just now, as well as this entry, I read the entry in which you talked about doing a heart check, and hearing Bethie's heart beating so fast, and holding her tight. Wow, that, and the symmetry between what you know about your own birth mother and about Bethie's birth mother, were really bringing tears to my eyes. She's going to love it, in years to come, when you talk to her about that--she's going to see how you, of all mothers, were destined to find her, of all children. It's beautiful. Ganbatte, ne! (You may know that Japanese phrase already, either on your own or because of Walker, but if you don't, it means, keep up the good work/keep trying/you can do it/stick with it/we're rooting for your.)

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  5. I too love Costco. I'm glad Bethie does too!

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  6. Love it! So glad things are getting better by the minute. And yes ... I totally know where you were sitting when you took that last picture. LOL! Been there, done that. Still praying for y'all. :)

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  7. I often take pictures of my one onto old rom that spot. Lol.

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  8. I worked so hard on that comment too. ONE MONTH OLD.

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  9. WHOOO HOOO for a trip out and for the adorableness of it all!

    So, glad you had a great day together!

    Praying in Kansas.

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  10. Oh yay!!!! She is so precious! So so glad! Praying for all of you and congratulations on your most beautiful Bethie!

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  11. Awesome!! Costco is a beautiful place, made even more beautiful by little Bethie's presence I'm sure. Glad you are finding your groove and discovering what works for you and your fabulous girl.

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  12. She is ADORABLE in that outfit! And that hair! Love it!!!

    So glad you had a great day yesterday. Praying that it was the beginning of many, many more!

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  13. I totally believe that the whole cocooning thing is good and right and healthy. But - confession time - I never did it. We adopted our daughter at two and she would pick up her shoes and stand at the door begging to go out. I felt the same way. She had no attachment problems. Our son was 5 1/2 when we got him 2 weeks before Christmas 2010. He was from a tropical area of China and not used to the cold, but keeping an energetic, outgoing little boy inside a small house was making us all crazy. We had several playdates soon after he came home. Plus we had all the Christmas festivities with extended family. He loved every minute. He was very secure in the fact that we were his family, and he never seemed to have attachment issues. But I felt very guilty! All that to say, read the books, follow the advice, but also pray hard and go with your gut.

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  14. I wanted to comment earlier this week and say that I'd go nuts all buried up in the house, but then I figured it wasn't my place. Who knew that Miss Bethie just wanted to SHOP!!

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  15. Missy I was almost in tears telling my sweet husband all about you and your darling little Bethie last night. I am so so SO glad today was a good day.

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  16. She is precious! Congratulations on your sweet new girl. Thank you for sharing your story in the ups and downs. I really appreciate the insight! Praying that God will continue to knit your hearts together!

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  17. Girl, you and your extrovert and gonna have a thousand adventures together. Awesome!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  18. Costco (called the Sample Store) was the place I used to get out of the house with my twinnies when they were little. Also, we adopted my oldest when we were young and new nothing, I mean no-thing, about adoption and broke all the rules. She's now a beautiful, completely bonded, strong, confident, wonderful 16 year old! I'm continuing to pray for your wonderful family! Love to you!

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  19. Getting out is awesome! I have been reading and following your story for some time now...
    I always loved getting out to Target, even if just to walk around, and see other people. And I'm not even an extrovert! We are getting ready to do it again, and I am already dreading the cocooning a little bit. Hang in there!

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  20. Seriously...how cute is SHE?????? Oh my goodness. I love what you are doing with her hair. I want MY hair to look like that (ain't never gonna happent).

    I remember losing my mind with kid #2 and my pediatrician writing a prescription for a cleaning lady and a trip to the mall. I seriously did both of those things...doctor's orders. I mean, it was a PRESCRIPTION!!!

    You are smart to get out of the house. Keeping her in a structured, safe environment is one thing, but even if you are an introvert (me!) you will go batty without driving away at some point. Good call, Mom!

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  21. Love following your story and how real you are about parenting and adoption. She is just the cutest! And a shopper! Years of fun ahead of you.

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  22. So, we didn't PLAN to cocoon, after we got Bogdan and he was attaching so well, but then I got monster kidney stones, sneaked out in the middle of the night and didn't come home for days (went to the hospital). Now we are in forced cocoon mode until kidney surgery later this week. It's been good. We needed the time to reconnect. But, I'M LOSING MY MIND!!! I agree. Pray and go with your gut! Just as your relationship with your bio kids is unique, so is your relationship to Bethie. No one can tell you the BEST way to cultivate it.

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  23. Yay! So glad to gear! Still praying, but Yay!,

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  24. I somehow missed the biggest news-stupid work. So glad she is home and somewhat adjusting!

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  25. Noticed you have been quiet for a few days and just checking in to make sure you are surviving! Yes, those first few weeks and months are sometimes just about survival! I remember it all tot well! Remember you are not alone and it does get easier. It is a slow process to heal a heart!!!

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